Sunday, February 12, 2012

Til Death Do Us Part.....?

The sacred unity of marriage just isn't what it use to be.  In 1980, the average marriage lasted 40 years, today, it only lasts 20 years.  Before then....there wasn't an "average lifespan" of a marriage.  Marriage was forever.  I read a story yesterday about a couple who has been married 82 years.  He's 100, and she's 99.  They said they love each other more than they did 82 years ago.  Society today views short marriages and divorce as the norm.  Both my husband and I come from divorced households.  If our path follows this trend, our marriage would only last another 10 years, if that.  We started dating 17 days after my 16th birthday.  Gave birth to our daughter when I was only 17 years old.  We got married when I was 20.  Next year will mark a decade of us being together, and statistically, we have been set up for failure.  However, we seem to have overcome every obstacle that has been set before us.  They say once you get married, your feelings begin to change, and you long to feel the way you did when you first met....you long for that love and attraction you felt.  I think it has been backwards for my husband and I.  Don't get me wrong, I loved him with all my heart in the beginning, but as time goes on, I feel more and more in love with this man.  He annoys the crap out of me, he farts, bites his nails, plays video games, asks me to clip his toe nails......but I wouldn't have him any other way.  I've come to love every annoying thing about him.  In fact, I can't sleep unless I can hear him snoring!  Is it possible I found my soul mate?  The one person on this entire planet I was meant to end up with?  A love that is not worth fighting for, is a love not worth your heart an soul.  No matter how tough things get, keep fighting for love, because the day you stop fighting is the day you no longer love. 

2 comments:

LOVE MELISSA:) said...

What a beautiful post. I feel the same way. My husband does all the same things but I love him more today than before. I got goosebumps reading this post!

Mrs. T said...

Thank you Melissa! We had it rough for the first few years, but after the struggle and hardships, I feel like it's made us stronger. I think when you marry someone, they have to be able to balance you out. And I feel like we do that for each other!